Season 3 Episode 47 - Acceptance as a Revolutionary Act

“Acceptance is not tolerance; it’s not saying it’s okay; it’s not resisting; it’s not saying ‘it should be another way but I guess it’s this way’; rather, it’s simply allowing what happened to be the way it is. For the rest of your life this will have happened…and nothing can change that.”

Sooner or later, all of us will experience betrayals in life. The key isn’t going to the ends of the earth to avoid betrayals altogether. That will never happen. Rather, the key is in learning how to respond to betrayals when they do happen. In this episode, Kari and Paul show how an inability to recover from betrayals poisons our relationships and takes away our ability to act going forward. On the other hand, knowing how to powerfully accept and bounce back from betrayals enables us to move through life with more confidence, more creativity, and more trust.

In This Episode:

1:28 — Why is it important to recover from betrayals?

3:47 — How long does it take to recover from betrayals?

5:25 — What do you do once you have identified the betrayal? Learning to “feel it” 100%

7:55 — Learning to accept in the face of betrayal

9:52 — Acceptance does not mean tolerance

13:02 — Kari coaches Paul through a real-life situation

24:05 — Getting to acceptance can take a long time…but it is possible!

Quotes:

“If we don’t recover from betrayals, it lingers in our relationships, leaving us limited and disempowered.”

“Those who cannot accept can never move on.”

“Tolerating a betrayal is almost like saying that it’s okay to continually violate my trust.”

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Acknowledgements: Our work is mosaic art. We read, study, and practice many philosophies, methodologies, and modalities of human performance, to ensure that our approach best serves our clients. We would like to acknowledge all of the thought leaders and organizations, whose ground-breaking work has influenced the TGN Consulting approach – especially Fernando Flores, Jim Selman, Michael C. Jensen, Julio Olalla, Pluralistic Networks,The Newfield Network, and the Strozzi Institute.

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